Do you have a favorite song? If so, what makes it your favorite? Is it the lyrics, the singer, the music, the way it makes you feel...or, all of the above?
Music is an amazing part of our world and something I would truly miss if I never heard it again. While I have many favorite songs, my top pick is a song called Let Go by Frou Frou.
Why? Beyond her voice, the music, and the feeling...it is the memory. A memory that takes me back and now makes me feel GRATEFUL.
Once upon a time, I felt stuck in an unhealthy marriage. It would feel so toxic at times that I would drive to the park in the neighborhood and sit in my car alone. I would listen to this song on repeat. The song was exactly how I felt and what I wanted. It kept telling me to just let go...it would be okay...and that there is beauty in the breakdown.
So...I finally let go. And...I had a breakdown. The breakdown didn't feel so beautiful. In fact, it felt ugly. It felt painful. But as I rode that wave of anger, fear, and total loss...the more strength I found in myself again.
The beauty I realized isn't during the breakdown. The beauty comes from withstanding the breakdown and making it to the other side. A ship making it out of a tumultuous storm, being toppled over and over, sure of its demise. But then the ship sails into the calm waters as the sun rises yet again. There is beauty in the breakdown. The strength you find, the courage you possess, the determination to not give up.
To make it out alive and better than well. To now have a story to tell others, to help others, to console others...a story to remind you of lessons you've learned and to be there to tell you: YOU CAN DO IT no matter what comes your way in the future. Sometimes we can't keep holding on to situations or people that no longer serve us. It holds us down. It breaks us to the core. Is there anything in your life that you need to let go of? Free yourself. The other side is so so so worth it. #findyourpurpose
I am turning 40 next month. Over these years, an important lesson that I have learned is to trust your intuition...that gut feeling.
In my youth, I tended to ignore my gut because I wanted to do something or be with someone...and that control always led me down the wrong path.
Even when we first meet people, many times we can pick up their energy, their vibe...whether positive or negative. You may meet someone that your intuition tells you that should keep a distance from. But, what if this person is attractive, charming, says all of the right things to make you question your gut?
Your head then says, "they really do seem nice though...and what a great smile!" Or your heart steps in, "they have been through so much...they really need me to help them." NO, NO, NO.
When your intuition says NO, listen, or prepare for a negative situation to happen. That is plain and simple. You have to quiet your mind and heart and allow your intuition to lead the way. The gut feeling you get is trying to help you, it is coming from a higher source, your higher self. The more you listen, the more you stay on your correct path.
These side roads only take us off course and we then get lost, confused, scared, feel alone, depressed, anxious...those feelings can all be tied to side roads. When you feel emotions that do not really serve you, ask yourself what is the root of this feeling in that moment. What is it telling you? Is it tied to another person, situation, decision?
As one of Shakira's songs says, "my hips don't lie", my new song is, "my intuition doesn't lie." Play THAT on repeat.
When you look into the mirror what do you see? What does the image of you make you feel?
It is more common than not to see our flaws, our imperfections, something we want to change. I challenge you to look into the mirror and compliment yourself. Whether it's that you have a nice smile, penetrating eyes, or perfectly shaped shoulders...see yourself with love, tender care, and value. You deserve it.
We spend a lot of time taking care of other people and things in life...our children, our pets, our partners, our parents...and yet when it comes to our own self care, we have no energy left for it. We allow our worst critic to take the stand and judge us, crippling our self worth until we break ourselves down into tiny pieces.
Tell yourself...I AM WORTHY, I AM LOVED, I AM ENOUGH, I AM CONFIDENT, I AM BEAUTIFUL...the more you think upon and say words to yourself the more you believe them. Change the negative self-talk into words of self empowerment and watch your life change
A personal story that may resonate with you:
2013 was a very powerful year in my life. Heartache and loss I had never experienced prior haunted my life and gave me only two choices - (1) Stay stuck, or (2) Push forward. As easy as those options sound, the decision wasn't easy. I ended up doing option 1, then 2.
I isolated myself, started to drink a bit too much, I allowed my existence to be nothing more than a flat tire of nothing. There were nights I remember just wanting to not be here anymore - it was dark, it was shattering, it was a black hole sucking me inside.
Then, one night I was in bed and I actually had a Bible verse come to me. It was part of the Lord's prayer, "...as I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me." I realized...I'm never alone.
Whether you believe in a God, Goddess, gods, the Universe, or a higher power...that is what I realized in that moment. It's never "just me."
I then immediately had a vision: I saw myself climbing a rugged mountain. It was dark, stormy, I kept slipping down, but would get right back up and start climbing again. Finally, as I got closer to the top, the darkness slowly turned into light and the weight I was carrying started to feel a lot less...I was moving faster now!
Finally, as I reached the very top, I could see far...for miles and miles and miles. I realized when I was down below, all I could see was the mountain - nothing else. I could only see the dark rocks before me, nothing but obstacles that felt endless. At the top, I saw beyond what I could have imagined. The sun was large, bright, and pouring out its energy to me. As I laid there in bed, tears streamed down my cheeks as I realized...I'm FREE!
From that point forward, I realized my thoughts became my reality. The more I kept my thoughts on the mountain (my issues, my circumstances, my tragedies) the more my life stayed stuck in that darkness. When my thoughts changed to the light and the abundance and the vastness of everything I could experience, my life changed! I know I went through that time to teach me a very huge life lesson that I will forever take with me.
I wanted to share this with you, because if you feel like you're in that "stuck" place, I want you to know, YES! You CAN conquer your mountain! <3 It may not be easy, but once you start and keep going, it gets easier and you'll build up the momentum.
When life feels over, it only means a new chapter is about to begin. Let the page turn.
Tristan Star is a certified Usui Ryoho & Karuna Ki Reiki Master, Angel Oracle Card Reader, and Law of Attraction Life Coach. Since 2013, he has practiced intention and manifestation methods with significant results. Tristan is also the designer behind Arcadia Jewelry Art.